How to Start a Relationship Awesomely

A lot of people have been asking me how to start a relationship with a girl, as they seem to find it very hard to do so. Actually starting a relationship with a girl is not that hard at all; it only depends on whether you know how to do it. Let me just share the steps that you can take to start a relationship with a girl, awesomely.

1. Be awesome at anything; if you are smart, show it off, if you are funny, make her laugh, or if you are good at sports, give a demonstration. Let people know how you are different.

2. Look into places where you can find the ideal girl of yours. If you like sports, do look into places where people do sports.

3. Do not lie to get the girl's heart. If she finds out that you have lied to her when both of you are in a deeper relationship, she will leave for good.

4. Start by making friend with her. Strong friendship builds the foundation for strong relationship. Talk to her about common interests and keep the conversation going.

5. Take things slowly. Do not be seen as a needy guy. She will think that you are just an annoying friend and you probably don't want her to think that. That special person might actually ask you over or on a date, which doesn't necessarily mean that she is into you. Give it time and things could work out. Once you have established 'first contact', remember not to squeeze the person.

6. Lastly, do flirt with her. Judge whether she is very open with flirting and play accordingly. Flirting certainly draws attention and can lead to a relationship.

To make it easier for you, make sure the girl is someone you have known for a while. The more history and common grounds you have between the both of you, the easier it gets.

She Can't Let Him Go

Anonymous Asked:

My friend broke up with her boyfriend long ago but still cannot get over him. Recently he returned to her hometown on a travel trip. At first she told me she had met him and now can move on. But then, she confessed that after that meeting, she keeps calling or tries to contact him. The bad thing is he has his new life. She knows that and seeing him with another woman makes her feel unhappy. And yet, she keeps calling.

I feel I should say something to her, but have no clue. Could you please help me? (We are just friends) Thank you.

Blushgirl Says:

Ultimately, the only person who can do anything in this situation is your friend. I am surprised the guy she keeps calling hasn't said something to her by now. I don't know their history, but could he be leading her on in some way? If so, then she needs to get away from him even more. If she is ever going to move on, she needs to stay away from this guy, especially since he has a new woman in his life.

If you have talked to her about this situation already, then that is all you can do. If you haven't, then tell her your concerns. Just assure her that you are there for her, and care about her. You want to be there for her if she needs to talk, but you don't want to become a "crutch" she can lean on whenever she is feeling depressed. Ultimately, she may need some space to work through these things on her own. Some people need more time than others to cope with certain situations and to come to decisions they need to make.

Just be there for her, but don't feel the need to "say something" to make her feel better. There is still something holding her to this old relationship, and that is something only she can change. There is nothing you can say that will make her problems magically go away. You have already done what you needed to do. Just let her know you are there, and care. That is what she needs right now… a good friend to listen.

Be a good friend, but don't feel the need to change her life for her. That is something only she can do… and she will when she is truly ready. She is very lucky to have you! - Kelly

How And Why To Find New Friends

If you are someone wishing you could find new friends, I have some good news for you, even though the fact that you are reading this means that you might not agree with me.

There are millions of people who would really love to be your friend!

I am assuming that when I use the term "friend", we both understand that a wide range of relationships may be encompassed. You may find a thousand acquaintances, five hundred close acquaintances, one hundred friends, ten close friends and one love of your life. Or, you may find twenty acquaintances, fifteen close acquaintances, five friends, no close friends and no love of your life. The results will depend on time, the pool of contacts you are diving into, your particular goals, luck, and other factors often, at least momentarily, beyond your control...such as time and place.

Many people who are seeking friends actually limit their opportunities to come in contact with these people and join with them in friendship because they are not following one or more of the following tips.

1. Go where your new friends are to be found.

2. To find a friend, be a friend.

3. Friends keep in touch and show they care.

As you read the above, you will notice one common thread. All of those statements imply action or effort of some sort. How many of us in high school had the "friend" who never seemed to have many friends and often complained that..."nobody likes me"? Thinking back from a slightly more mature viewpoint, how many times do we realize how often that particular person never went anywhere, never did anything to be a part of the group, and often stood on the sidelines taking potshots at those who were having a good time with their friends?

I know that I personally fit into that category. I was in the U. S. Army before I realized that I wasn't "popular" in high school because I fit precisely into that category. I can see now how many times people tried to include me in their activities and circles as I wandered in and out of these events and passing relationships trying hard to show everybody that I was just fine without them!

However, this sort of behavior is not limited just to high school. Sadly, I saw my father follow this same path throughout most of his working life and into retirement (although he WAS careful not to mock other peoples' beliefs)...where he died several years before he should have in a state of self-imposed isolation with the belief that nobody liked him or cared if he lived or died.

Who needs friends?

Over the years, several studies have shown a strong correlation between one's length of life and level of health, and the structure of their social network, i.e. the friends and acquaintances with whom they remain actively linked. In fact, sites such as Dr. Thomas Perls' "Life Expectancy Calculator" (www.livingto100.com), are including questions about the size and strength of an individual's personal network of family and acquaintances as part of the process they use to estimate life expectancy.

Okay, so where are your friends to be found?

Well, that is one to answer for yourself. Many people try to find "friends" in bars. However, while chance encounters in alcoholically fueled environments certainly accounts for some true lasting friendships, genuine friendship is often better based on shared interests and activities. Getting smashed regularly might not be the best way to search for someone you can trust and rely on...no matter how much fun they are at the moment. If you are religious, go to church regularly. If you are athletic, join an exercise group or sign up for a gym membership. If you are a stamp collector, join a stamp collecting club. Even if you do not find someone within that group who really excites you, those people of similar tastes and life views may have friends who would love to have you as a new friend. The key here is to circulate, but circulate within spheres where you are likely to find people with similar (not necessarily the exact same) interests and attitudes.

Somebody has to take the first step.

If you meet someone that you would like to be friends with, that should mean that this potential relationship is valuable enough for you to invest a little personal effort. That person may be sitting at home wondering why YOU don't call! When I attended my 20th high school reunion, I learned of two girls who had once had crushes on me while I had sat at home never contacting them or anyone else because I was sure that they didn't like me!

Okay, so your feelings get hurt, or you find yourself with a friend that you wish you had never hooked up with. Well, there's not much I can tell you except that is a normal part of life and is likely to occur whether you are actively seeking friends or not. However, no matter how much it may hurt or upset you at the moment, it definitely does NOT define your worth or value, and it will fade in time unless you choose to keep it up front with genuinely important things.

Take the first step. It doesn't have to be a declaration of undying friendship or a date. Include the person in an activity that you think they might be interested in. Sometimes just the invitation is enough. Call or send a card on their birthday. Yes, make the effort to learn their birthday. If you are in a used book store, just go whole hog and spend the $2.99 to pick up a used copy of the book they said they wanted to read. Even if they have bought the book new in the meantime, the thought will be important to them. If not, they probably are not someone you would want for a friend anyway.

Do not let true friends "fall by the wayside".

"No man is an Island", said John Donne. When we let friends drift away, we are allowing a part of our "island" of self to erode. True, not every friend or acquaintance is going to maintain the same level of importance in our lives as we and they change, move, ripen, or sour. However, it doesn't hurt to drop a line, an email, or to make a quick phone call just to keep in touch. Their friendship was valuable to us at one time and will probably retain a value throughout our lives, You never know when the guy you used to go on business trips with turns out to be the one who shows up to help you through a particularly difficult period in your life.

I don't know about you, but simply from a selfish point of view, better health and a longer, more enjoyable life are good enough reasons for me to go out and make some new friends or renew old friendships.

Maintaining A Healthy Relationship - Rituals For Completing And Pampering Yourself!

In order to have a good relationship you need to be good to yourself. You have to think about the things that you need and want in order to make someone else happy.

Think about the pampering that you like to have and what you need to have on a regular basis. You will want to continue these things throughout your relationship. You may want to think about what is important to you and what you have to have in order to have a healthy lifestyle.

If there are certain things that you like to do, you should continue to do them. After all you want to be happy and the best thing that you can do to make this happen is to keep doing the same things. When you are used to certain rituals for pampering and taking care of yourself, you want to do them so that you can feel good.

Feeling good is the key to having a happy and healthy relationship for a long time. Keeping your relationship strong is one of the most important things that you can do for yourself. You want to think of different things that you can do to make this happen. Once you have achieved your goals and came to a conclusion, you will be able to make your life better in your relationship and on your own.

1) How to keep happy

Your happiness is a great goal for you to achieve. You have to find happiness in your life so that you are able to stay fulfilled. When you are ready to take on a relationship, you have to make sure that you have taken care of yourself first so that you can make this happen.

There is nothing more important than keeping your own happiness above others. No one else is going to do this for you so you have to be in control.

2) Do what you like

When you are in a relationship, you need to stay positive. You have to be in control of the things that are happening around you. When you have control over them, you will see that you will have a happier and healthier relationship that will benefit the both of you. There is no point in being unhappy and negative about things that are going on in your life. When you are open to making positive goals, you will see a better response from those around you as well.

3) Take time out for your mind

Clearing your mind is very important to staying focused. When you are feeling like you are loosing control, you need to set some time away for yourself so that you can get relaxed. You need to stay calm and keep your mind free from clutter. This will help you think well and keep your goals in sight for your relationship. You will have a better outcome with your love life as well as keeping in good spirits and having happy feelings.

4) Staying fit and healthy

Using a good form of exercise is something that will do a lot of good for your relationship as well. When you are physically staying fit, you are giving yourself a better outlook on life. You will be happier and able to express how you are feeling easier. You will not have to be self-conscious and working out is a way to release chemicals that make you feel bad about yourself.

This will in return help your relationship and keep you on the right path to success with your partner or even your friends.

Being good to yourself is one way to make sure that you are doing what you can to make your relationship better and to let you both stay happy. Being sure of the things that you want in life is going to be another way to stay focused and on track.

When you are using good judgments doing what is best for you, any relationship that you are in will be better and keep getting stronger as you move on. Do not be afraid to go for it. Taking chances and doing what makes you happy will give you a greater feeling inside. You will have a better chance at improving your own life skills as well as showing others how they can be happier too.